So - according to the glossy fluff mags, all you need for a fulfilling sex life is a beach or a bottle full of erotic-smelling massage oil (you probably don’t want both…because then we’re back to that sand in the crack thing, and with the oil…well, let’s just say you’re probably in for a long shower rather than a romantic evening…). Now, I’m not saying romance is a bad thing - it certainly helps. But if neither you nor your partner are proficient drivers, the fanciest car in the world isn’t going to take you where you want to go.
Back to the research - there are oodles of studies and surveys documenting women’s sexual issues. The majority don’t have vaginal orgasms, and many aren’t able to climax every time. Women know that among their friends, especially those who are moms, there is much talk about not wanting sex, not enjoying sex, and an all-around dissatisfaction - or worse, apathy - about their sex lives. I’m sure that some women are actually sexually dysfunctional for a physical or emotional reason (sexual abuse can greatly impact a woman’s feelings about sex with her spouse - this diatribe is not meant to offend or insult those women who have serious sexual challenges due to a reason outside of their control). In general, however, I refuse to believe that the majority of women are broken.
Many couples get into a routine. Some may be intimidated by the idea of researching exactly how to improve their sex life. Think of it like this - you wouldn’t eat soup with a fork for very long. You’d keep trying different things until you found what worked better to get the food to your stomach and satisfy your hunger (a spoon! aha!). Don’t settle for mediocrity in the bedroom either. When you do, sex then becomes a duty…a necessary obligation which many women feel they have to fulfill, like doing the laundry.
It doesn’t have to be this way. It can be good. Really good. Women were not designed to only climax by way of clitoral stimulation. If that were the case, intercourse would not be the way we procreate. At the base level, sex is supposed to be enjoyable so that we are compelled to do it, hence reproduce. Women have an amazing mechanism to this end, called the g-spot. You may already know this spot well, or you may have only heard the word and thought it was some mysterious thing which is out of your reach, so to speak. Rest assured, however, it is there, and with practice can improve your intimate life to an extent you probably never dreamed possible. Don’t be afraid to read up, investigate, research, go through trial and error. Both partners, not just the woman, need to understand the g-spot - its location as well as how it works. The g-spot is one of the most misunderstood, under-utilized sexual tools, and yet it’s the one that can really make your intimate relationship explode, literally. I’m out of time for today, but you can read more here…
